I was married fairly young, at age 21. W was 26. I thought we were on the same page about babies when we got married (namely have some and quick!) and then we started talking. He was never anti-children by any means, but he had some things he needed to work through concerning his own childhood-or lack thereof-before starting his own family. W claims that we had the "kid conversations" before we were married. I must have put it out of my mind. And so I waited. Admittedly not very patiently.